When you breathe, allow your body and mind to communicate. Becoming aware of your anger is the first step in knowing yourself. (photo by Steve Tsai)

"Rage, fury, blinding wrath..." Many people have experienced "seeing red" or have found themselves unable to defuse fury before it explodes. How should we deal with anger?

Listen to your body speak

Awareness is the most important step in coming to grips with anger.

Psychologists have found that in many situations, anger seethes unnoticed inside of us.

Shiuh-Li Liuh Memorial Foundation mental health counselor Emily Liu reminds us, "Our bodies can communicate with us." We can start the dialog by being aware of our bodies. Watch for an accelerated pulse, tensed muscles, clenching of teeth, and shallow, rapid breathing-all possible signs of anger. Look for indicators of possible pent up anger, such as inability to focus on work, restless anxiety, frequent toilet trips, and insomnia.